I remember vividly new years of 2011 when I found myself sprinting away on the treadmill my parents had just bought me. I told myself if I can run on the treadmill until the clock hits midnight I have no doubt that I will have a productive year ahead. I think we can all agree we have told ourselves countless times, ”I will start doing this and that next year”, and we continue to set ourselves up for failure. However, that year I decided to take a different turn in my life. Instead of writing down the goals I would like to accomplish for the new year I started just doing it so that it becomes a habit, and not just a week commitment where you take a 180 turn and turn your life around a whole different direction. It’s all about balance, gradually making things a habit and consistency.
Growing up as an adolescent I remember back in school I was called, “Thunder Thighs”, my name is Tahys so people thought it would be funny to call me, “Thighs”. I have been very athletic my whole life and I have tried just about every sport out there, and I have failed many times. However i’m glad I failed multiple times in my life trying everything I did because I wouldn’t be the person I am today without experiencing failure and looking back and regretting what I didn’t try.
As a child, being the only girl and having two older brothers I was used to them always being better than me at every sport, it was like a competition. I tried soccer and I loved it because I got to travel and I made a lot of friends but I wasn’t the best soccer player. Better yet, I hardly knew the rules and was benched most of the time and was only used when someone got hurt or if someone needed a break. I also tried gymnastics for a couple days and I found out I wasn’t so flexible after all. Following gymnastics, I decided to try out for the basketball team in middle school, and I didn’t make the cut. Since soccer, gymnastics and basketball were no longer an option anymore I decided to try volleyball in middle school, and I finally was good at something after all. I enjoyed playing volleyball and I was a strong server and I loved the sport. However, I wasn’t such a good team player and that didn’t work out either. Sooner than later, I realized I needed to try a sport where I only competed against myself and that’s when I decided to listen to my father who always told me to go back to do what I do best, swimming.
Sooner than later, I joined the swim team at my high school and I loved it! There was nothing that could compare to it and my parents were very happy to see me swim and they took the time to take me to practice everyday for the school team for two hours and then another two hours for my club team. That year was a good year because if it wasn’t for swimming I don’t know what I would have done for stress management. Nothing could compare to it. As soon as I put my swim cap on and tightened my goggles and glided through the water sprinting away nothing else mattered and it was just me and the water. 3,500 yards into the practice I was pretty burnt out but there was nothing better than having my parents there for me supporting my passion and desires.
The year I decided to join the swim team was the year my life started turning in a whole new direction, and that was Freshmen year of 2009 when my grades started improving. I joined the debate team, asb, honors society, leo club and leadership. I wanted to spread my wings and be a part of everything. However, there is a lesson learned from this; sometimes we tend to push ourselves too hard that we end up setting ourselves up for failure. It’s better to be the best at one or two things than being just one more addition to a club or society. Similar, to what happened with myself in high school when I couldn’t get over the fact that I got held back in Kindergarten because my mom didn’t have the best guidance and allowed the school to hold me back, and repeat Kindergarden again! For twelve years I could not let that grudge go for my mom's decision to waste a year of my life that I could have been moving forward. What I didn’t realize though is for holding that grudge for so long I only slowed myself down more than I could have ever imagined. Instead of enjoying the life I had been granted with the people I had grown up with I couldn’t get over the fact I got held back so the only thing I focused on is trying too hard to grow up. Nonetheless, I found myself living a life full of agony, anger and I became a very unthankful human being. If only I had accepted the fact that I got held back and it was over and done with I would have made unanimous strides.
Sometimes we just have to focus on the now and put the past behind. Have a positive out look on life and be grateful for what we have because the things we have today are only one of the many things we once only hoped for, and let God guide us in the right direction. Each and everyone of us has a direction and a purpose in this life. Only through our failures can we grow as a person, find our true passion and live a prosperous life.